Return of the Grumpy Old (and young) Women (and blokes if they want) Thread!

[Meiko]

Got all the bills stacking up and no money to pay them till 15th Jan, just hope I get the money alright. Need to pay my dad 1K for my PC and then pay off this and last months bills for Gas, Electric etc.

Also sad cause my boyfriend comes to see me at the weekends but he's just gone off out to see his cousin, didn't invite me this time like he normally would. The weekends is our time to be together especially if he has to spend alot of time at his mum's. Just I didn't want to say anything to him incase he got angry at me being too controlling and not letting him do anything.

[Meiko]

Even more angry today cause said Boyfriend has gone home early because of running out of tobacco from seeing his cousin yesterday and can't afford to get anymore. I was cooking a roast as well. Seem to be seeing less and less of him recently.

[Sally Buttons]

Sounds like it's time to kick him into touch, grrrrlfriend!

[Meiko]

Normally he's fine but he was going to quit smoking at new year and decided not to in the end when it came to it. Which annoyed me more cause he seemed to be so dedicated to the idea, we'd been talking about it for weeks running up to the end of the year.
Think I'm upset by the idea he won't be at mine till Saturday when I got used to him being at mine for most of the week. He's going to be going out Friday night with his cousin to try and help him pull. I trust him not to do anything himself but a bit annoyed I didn't get invited out as well.

[Cal Soulshadow]

Well, you don't want a girl with you if you're on a lad's night out.
He does sound as though he is getting a bit distant, however.

My advice, and you can choose to ignore it, is don't chase after him. If a guy pulls back and needs space, let him have it. Let him initiate calls or emails for a while and make your own plans for a bit - go out with a girlfriend or do an exercise class or whatnot. He will be curious as to why you're not running after him.
Men are essentially hunters - they like the chase. If you chase them, they quickly lose interest. That's basic biology.

[Ebony&Markus]

Cal is right. You have to play hard to get. No idea why but it really does work....It is really hard though when you really really like someone. If he calls maybe say something like... hmmmm Friday is not possible as I have to do XYZ, hmm let me see. How about Saturday? Wait for him to call you.

[Anorah]

Have to agree with Cal and Ebs, hard to get all the way.. Remind him that your arent that old constant steadfast standby. Even if you are, like I am with mine :P.. Ill admit, when times have come about that Ive felt hes gotten a bit too comfortable with things, and has started to take things for granted, Ive shaken them up purposely by being aloof, and needing time apart.

Works like a charm tbh.

[Meiko]

Managed to sort the argument out yesterday, I went to see him and he said he was starting to wonder where things stood. He's been on his own with no Girlfriend (out of choice not cause he couldn't pull, he had a bad breakup with the mother of his child) for the last 17 years, so he's used to doing his own thing without thinking too much of others beyond his immediate family.

On the other hand I can become clingy to someone I'm involved with, I tend to feel insecure even if the person is saying how much they love me. Trouble is I've lost contact of alot of my RL friends, some have moved away and others I just don't know where they live anymore. So I don't have people to go round to see. Although my son goes to school I tend not to get involved with the other parents there.

But.. I'm going to be joining the gym next week with my mum, though my mum is partly to do with my low self-esteem with the way she's said I'm getting fat and said something about my neck the other day. I'm 4'11 and weigh just under 9st atm, my boyfriend says its just from where I've been inactive alot but it doesn't really bother him. So will see how things go over the next 6 months.

On a nice note, he's buying me a tumble dryer and after that a new oven. I know he does care alot for me, I just need to relax and let him do his own thing and get used to being in a relationship again.

[Sally Buttons]

Some scrotes in one of the flats above mine, are smoking out of the windows and flicking their fag butts out. There is a sea of dog ends outside the back door, which then get walked in when it's raining, but worst of all, the sodding smouldering fag ends are regularly landing on my car bonnet, causing burn marks. The dirty bastards, I moved here to get away from that sort of chavvy behaviour, not to have it even more.

[Ebony&Markus]

I am now again.... unemployed.... JOY!

[Meiko]

I've been unemployed for 2 years.. what annoys me is that it can be so looked down upon and especially by my mother. Apparently not having a job is some kind of crime, doesn't matter the reasons. Oh and also makes me socially lower than her and its obviously such a strain on the family and such.
Though I have noticed sometimes when you meet people or friends they very often talk about work and when you say, I don't have a job atm, the conversation suddenly stops.
I don't have a job, but I'm there to pick my son up from school, help him with his homework and around during the school holidays for him. Yes I'd love to get a job and have more money than I do but I'm not going to be put down by others for it.

So keep your chin up, do something worthwhile during this time and then pick things back up.

[Ebony&Markus]

Thanks Meiko for the support.

don't have a job, but I'm there to pick my son up from school, help him with his homework and around during the school holidays for him. Yes I'd love to get a job and have more money than I do but I'm not going to be put down by others for it.

Being a mum is a job though. In my view the most important job in the world. It makes me sad that society frowns upon it, and it is only considered to be a real job if you make money. If you look after other peoples kids though and get paid for it, well that is different in society's view. Sick really and very sad.

Being a full time mum is respectable, it is so awful the way society thinks... makes me feel sick.

[Snubson]

My mother aint worked since my sister was born...and that was er...dunno, long long ago when dinosaurs roamed the world prolly..


..back to uni next week! BOOOOOOOOO!

[Ebony&Markus]

Originally Posted by Snubson

My mother aint worked since my sister was born...and that was er...dunno, long long ago when dinosaurs roamed the world prolly..


..back to uni next week! BOOOOOOOOO!

whoa snubson. I never knew you were so old...... Mature student eh?

[Cal Soulshadow]

It snowed and fouled all the traffic up!